“Lesser the ego, more the knowledge; more the ego, lesser the knowledge…” — Albert Einstein
Well, hi there! It’s been awhile, hasn’t it… almost a year since the last large instance of idiocy in the SL dance community occurred that made me want to speak out. And you know, I thought things were getting better. For awhile, they were. There was an unfortunate incident with a competition judging situation where the 2nd place girl was (seemingly) purposely announced as last, and the competition organizer refused to hand over cards to the judges so they could double check when they asked for them… however, that seems to have blown over. A review board has been called for and talked about by a few of the more esteemed judges in the dance community, like Sir Ramius. More information on that as it comes, I’m sure.
Anyway, to the real point of this post. Who’s done fucked up this time? I’m glad you asked, imaginary other half of this conversation!
Shellirene Resident. (Dun dun duuuuuuuun.) Some of you know the drama she has caused out in the general Gorean community in roleplay situations, getting herself cast out of various sims, including one that she owned (don’t ask; I have NO idea how that worked)… however, none of that is what this post is about. This is about the drama that she caused in Rya Inglewood’s dance class, The Passionate Heart of Dance. Mhmms. More unfortunate instances of students taking advantage of a kind woman who just wants to make a difference in the world of dance with her teachings. This one’s a feisty one, though. She actually has the nerve to make students and teachers alike miserable, get herself thrown out of the classes, and then try to drag Rya’s name through the mud like it was somehow all HER fault that Shell is an egotistical little brat. (Yeah, I’m not sure how that adds up either.)
After getting herself thrown out of the Passionate Heart of Dance Academy 3 weeks before graduation, she decided to write a rather slanderous blog post. This post, as well as the instances surrounding her class experience and subsequent ejection from the course without being allowed to graduate, will be the main focuses of this blog.
** Warning: If you don’t want to hear about the drama that this girl has caused, please stop reading now. This will be addressing her concerns as well as the events surrounding what has happened… point by point, line by line, item by item. If you don’t want to read it, don’t continue reading. If you continue reading, that is YOUR choice, and you should not address the fact that this post is “all about drama” in a comment. Such comments will sit unapproved. You have been warned. (In other words… “ain’t nobody got time for that.”) **
Let’s start at the beginning… I think. I dunno… most of her blog post was written in one paragraph consisting of very few sentences. The period key on her keyboard must be broken or something, as well as the comma and the shift key. Caps lock sure seems to work though. So I’m just going to start at the beginning of her post and make a grand attempt to provide “Shell to English” translation for those of us who actually understand the words “grammar” and “punctuation”.
Starting with the first sentence… or the first sentence fragment… ya know, hell, let’s just start with the first couple words…
“And Flame you lieing cunt“
Well clearly we are made aware with this excellent introduction that she is going to be approaching the situation like an adult from a purely factual standpoint. She is obviously going to use facts and chat logs, etc to support her accounts of what has happened, and in the end she may actually make us question the validity of her removal from the course without being allowed to graduate. In fact, we can obviously tell that the quality of this blog post may actually prove that she’s learned something, and may even make us reconsider our stance about her performing at graduation.
Or… she’s just going to throw a fit like a three year old.
Anyway, right… the first part of the blog post is directed at Flame (ScarletFleur Resident).
“And Flame you lieing cunt, yeah you read out a chat log we had but you read the wrong one out so you saying what you did was not said in that note card because you said it in a totally different one, you bitch. and since when is a persons past 3 sims she rped on got to do with a dam dancing academy? ill tell you NOTHING you only added that in to make me look bad. and how dare you go tell a free person that YOU recon I can not listen, I can not do as im told, I can not learn, then how is it bitch that I have all these certifacats to prove YOU bloody wrong huh. lets see oh yes this is comeing from a person that thinks she is soooo great a slave you sit in the slavers office and for 2 hours yes I timed it, 2 hours flame you sat there telling the slaver how dare he put out chore bords for the slaves, and that YOU were not going to do a chore nor were you going to note card it, as you are aove doing that and so are the rest of the slaves and how dare he put them out expecting the slaves to do them and if any thing he is causeing people as in slaves to leave not stay because they will take one look at his chore bords and say im not staying here if I have to do chores. and you ript into him on this issue for two dam hours. the poor guy ended up taking them down cos of YOU. and you call yourself a slave. and slave knows you do not talk to a free like that let alone a slaver. but you do. cos your so right and up your own ass hole.“
Oh my lord, the red squiggling lines in my WordPress just went nuts. Though there are no squiggling lines in the last 2 lines on my screen, so perhaps she spelled everything right… or, my spellchecker decided fuck it… it’s time to drink some vodka and wait to die.
Anyway, she brings up a chat log that Flame read the wrong one of, supposedly. She also typed that out in chat during class on Monday when Flame was reading it aloud. However, to that point, all I can really say is that, noting Shell’s concern, Flame did go back and produce the other chat log that Shell seemed to think would incriminate Flame. You can find both chat logs in Flame’s response to Shell’s blog, posted here. But of course, because Flame couldn’t read Shell’s mind when Shell was in MY IM (more on that later) making the wild accusation that Flame called her dances lousy, Flame is apparently a “cunt” and a “bitch”. Mhmm. Makes perfect sense, doesn’t it? -.-
Next, she asks since when does a person’s last 3 sims they roleplayed in have anything to do with a dance academy. At first, I have to agree with her… that it has nothing to do with it. Rather, it SHOULD have nothing to do with it. However, this is another instance in which Shell made it relevant to the dance class by walking through that door and refusing to leave her past issues outside the class. Dani (you’ll hear more about her later) used to roleplay with Shell in the city of Ti. Dani is a beginner in Rya’s class, Shell was in the Advanced class. Shell made two specific digs at Dani that made absolutely no sense: the first, was saying that Dani’s outfit she was thinking about using for her graduation dance made her look like a coin slut. (Yes, it was the coin silks from Shack… but her overall presentation was hardly coin slut material… and Shell knew this… she was just trying to insult Dani.) The other dig was Shell bringing up something that Dani had supposedly said in roleplay, about Shell being only fit to clean the shit off a statue. You know what, I wasn’t there, so I can’t say one thing or the other about that… but the one thing I know is this: Who… the fuck… cares? Does cleaning shit off a statue have anything to do with dance class? Not unless you’re doing a dance about it. So why would Shell bring that up in the middle of a class? Because she’s an attention-seeking drama whore who will do anything for the attention she craves, even if it’s tearing down another student and wasting class time. So, by taking things that have nothing to do with dance class and using them to fuel her emotional, drama-filled tirades during classes, she made things “outside” this dance academy become relevant. Yet another thing that she herself has caused, yet blames other people for or claims to not understand them. Oh, and the part about “you only added that in to make me look bad.” Hunny, wake up… you’ve done a good enough job all on your own of making yourself look bad.
I’m already exhausted, aren’t you? But we’re just barely skimming the surface, unfortunately.
Next, Shell states that Flame has gone to Free and told them that she cannot listen, cannot learn, cannot do as she’s told, etc etc. Unfortunately, Flame is sleeping as I’m writing this, so I can’t address this with her… because I, once again, have NO idea where this accusation came from. I suspect that perhaps it’s something that happened while they were roleplaying together in the City of Ti, but I cannot be for certain without speaking to Flame about it. If it becomes important enough to make an amendment to this blog entry after addressing this accusation with Flame, I’ll update it and write the explanation at the bottom of this entry.
Next, her certificates. LORD, how many times we got to hear about these certificates? We heard about them in class, we heard about them outside of class, we hear about them in arguments, and now we hear about them in this blog post. Allow me to state this perfectly clear, once and for all: Certificates. Mean. Nothing. Coming from a model with certificates from various academies making me a “certified” model, I’m going to tell you, again, certificates. mean. nothing. What a certificate says is that you can successfully regurgitate the information that a particular person gave you about a particular subject matter. It doesn’t make you an expert in that subject matter because 9 times out of 10, you didn’t do your own research on the topic. You took what that person said to you about it, you took notes on it, you studied those notes, passed the test their way, and then they presented you with a certificate. For example, when I first started modeling and went to my first school, my first teachers told me that when I’m stopping on a runway and need to turn and face the audience, I stop, and then use my arrow key to turn in that direction to face that portion of the audience. I graduated that academy by performing how they expected me to, and I received a certificate. Another school that I attended later said that when I am wanting to turn on a runway to face the audience, I stop, turn my camera to face that portion of the audience, and then I tap either my left or right arrow keys to make my avatar turn entirely to that side in one motion (instead of slowly turning that direction using only the arrow keys.) I passed my tests and performed the way they wanted me to perform, and received a certificate in that school too. Those certificates only mean that I can perform “basic modeling skills” in the way that THAT particular school wants me to perform them. If having a certificate made me an ‘expert’ in all things modeling, then I wouldn’t have learned anything new at that second school. However, that’s clearly not the case, because I learned a second way to turn. Do you see what I mean? Certificates. Mean. Nothing. In the grand scheme of things, that is.
I also like what Flame had to say on the subject of certificates. Do certificates make me a good roleplayer, a good model, or a good person? Not at all. My writing style and knowledge of the subject I’m roleplaying will determine whether or not I’m a good roleplayer. My ability to EXECUTE modeling skills will determine whether or not I’m a good model. And WHO I AM will determine whether or not I’m a good person. Again, say it with me, Certificates. Mean. Nothing.
Oh, but apparently Flame’s a bitch… again.
Next, we have a completely random diatribe about a Slaver in the City of Ti that Flame apparently talked to for 2 hours about the concept of chore boards. Shell accuses Flame of thinking that she’s ‘above’ doing chores, and that she is telling a Free Person what to do. I’ll first point out that Shell makes a comment about how, yes, she did time the conversation. That’s a bit… stalker-ish. Like, seriously, do you have nothing else better to do than sit there and time how long Flame is roleplaying with someone (because as we heard on Flame’s blog, she was having an in character conversation in local, as well as an out of character conversation in IMs with the Slaver)? Really? That, right there, should be the first red flag. Shell loves to play the victim… it’s never her fault that she gets removed from sims or classes or collars or friend’s lists or what have you… she’s always the persecuted one. She’s always quick to play the victim, the one being wronged. However, if she was truly innocent in all this, why wouldn’t she be off engaging in her own roleplay? Why is she, instead, sitting around, timing a roleplay that Flame is having with someone, so that she can do what with that time exactly? Bring it up now, months and months and months later in a pathetic attempt to grasp at straws as to why she’s so much better than Flame is? (While simultaneously accusing Flame of thinking she’s better than everyone else, I might add.) There’s nothing else I can really say to this other than… what in the hell does this have to do with anything? Not a damn thing.
To stray from facts for just a moment and toss in my own personal opinion… Shell is the last person to make herself out like an exemplary example of slavehood. To look at Flame and Shell in comparison with each other… Flame is a much better slave. Better trained, better behaved. Flame actually read the books and conducts herself accordingly and is able to say that she is in a healthy relationship with a Master that fulfills her slavery and makes her happy… and that she makes Him proud. Shell, on the other hand, clings to her “certificates” that don’t actually prove she read a damn thing and conducts herself like a spoiled child who doesn’t get a toy or candy when she goes shopping with her parents… and has barely been able to hold onto a collar for longer than it takes for her to go through her menstrual cycle… and just for the record, any collar she manages to be in, she seems to drive the poor man crazy. (More on that in a moment, since my Master had a conversation with Shell’s during her last class.)
Alright… anyway… we’ve FINALLY made it through Shell’s first bit about Flame. We can move on now.
“as for Tivi I notised you left out half of what YOU told me in that note card you only put in what you wanted them to know to make me look bad and you look like the little princess cunt you are.“
Hey, lookie there, I get to talk about myself for a short moment! Lol. She noticed that I left out half of what I told her in our conversation? Unfortunately for the class members who had to sit through my extensive comment, no, I didn’t leave anything out except the very end (after her Master interrupted me and demanded I be quiet, as if He had any right to command me with my own Master present, I got a little distracted and just finished without reading the rest of the conversation)… I read every comment, word for word, that both Shell and I stated. Of course, because Shell wants to play the victim, she wants to believe that the things I said were worse than they actually were, and that they were uncalled for, rather than responses to what she was saying. She claims I left things out because she didn’t like that the conversation made her look like a bitch who wasted two hours of my time.
Oh, and apparently I’m a little princess cunt. To that, I just have to say the following: hahahahahahahahahaha. PLEASE, simple bitch… I KNOW I’m a cunt… LOL. And if you look back in my past blog entries of mine where I address other controversial issues, you’ll see where other “slaves” in the Gorean community have no problems telling me how much of a “princess” I am for having my own brain, my own voice, and possessing opinions that are different than theirs, while not being afraid to express those opinions in the open forum that is MY OWN PERSONAL BLOG. So you’re not telling me anything I haven’t already heard before. And, unfortunately for you, it doesn’t hurt me. Nice try, though. Valiant effort. Broaden your vocabulary a bit and maybe you’ll be able to insult me.
Alright. Done with her bit about me. Next.
“and Rya you run a school of dance do you. your hardly there and when you are on your hanging out with tivi and flame and sarah, you never get on to post group notices you let tivi do that. weres the respect there Rya? you say you wont let us fail. yet you passed me then decided to fail me not on my dancing, but because I in your eyes could not let go of the past. which I might add has NOTHING to do with my dance abilty. and what makes it worse is you allowed me to sit there for just over two hours while your so called bum buddies of girls Tivi, and Flame all put the knife in and then you tell me I wont graduate.“
Ok. When Rya’s online she’s hanging out with me and Flame and Sarah? She’s also building… and shopping for things to build… and writing her own dances (occasionally)… and meeting with students that have ASKED for her help… and attending discussions when she feels like it… and hanging out with her other friends… or hanging out with her SL daughter… or a myriad of other things. However, and I seem to be asking this question a lot when it comes to stuff Shell says, what in the fuck does that have to do with the price of tea in China? So what if she spends her time with her friends? So what? Dance classes were on Mondays and Tuesdays at 7pm SLT. What she does outside of that time is none of your damn business, and none of your concern. Why does it bother you so much? Because she wasn’t helping you? You have to ASK for help to get it, and as we’ve all pointed out several times, you didn’t ask. You asked once while Rya was bed-ridden sick, and she tried to come in to help you, but was just too sick, and sent you an apology. You never bothered to reschedule a meeting with her after she felt better, so we could only assume that your issues were worked out. You never asked for additional help. Or were you upset because she was hanging out with us, and not with you? You have to make yourself someone that people want to be around before people will want to hang out with you. I’m sorry, but we weren’t about to make extra effort to hang out with you and act all buddy buddy when you made our class time miserable. I’d prefer as much non-miserable free time as I can get my hands on, thank you very much.
Rya never gets on to post group notices? You know what, that’s actually my fault, and I’ll own that. When Rya would be in Skype with me… sounding miserable… in so much pain… in near tears… when she would go afk to go to the bathroom and get water and all I could hear is groaning… and crying… and “ow, ow, ow” with EVERY SINGLE STEP she took… when I would hear all these things, my heart would break for Rya. And so when she would be in Skype with me and say, “I think I’m going to come online and send a notice to cancel class tonight,” I would tell her, “No, you go lay down. I’ll send it.” Of course, she wouldn’t lay down until the notice had been successfully sent, because she didn’t want any of the students to be upset with her for being a no-show… so I would type the message, read it back to her, change it as she saw fit, and send it when she was happy with it. Then I would make her take her happy ass to bed and get some rest. THAT is the reality of the situation. THAT is why Rya didn’t come on to send group notices. You want someone to blame for that? Blame me. Blame me for having her best interest in mind and trying to help. You want someone to assign blame to so bad, then god damn, blame me and shut the fuck up about it.
Where’s the respect? She was respecting my wishes to see her rest and get better. Since when is that a bad thing? Anyway, next point…
Rya makes three promises in the Beginner’s class. 1.) Rya will be there for them. 2.) Rya will not let them fail. 3.) Rya will not let them make a fool of themselves. Now, perhaps these are lofty promises to make, because Rya cannot control the actions of her students. She can only control her teachings, her lessons, her assignments, etc etc. If a student refuses to meet her halfway, then perhaps they can fail or make a fool of themselves. But if they do, it will not be Rya’s fault. Because Rya will have done everything in her power to be sure it doesn’t happen. THAT is what she means by those promises. But just in case that’s not enough of an explanation, allow me to address what each of those promises means:
1.) Rya will be there for them.
Shell would probably claim that Rya broke this promise because of so many cancelled classes due to her illness, and then the fact that Shell claims Rya never helped her when she was struggling, yet she helped other students (she frequently uses her former friend Reine as an example here). However, what Rya means by this promise is that she is approachable… she will always be there for a student to talk to. She will always listen. She will always do everything in her power to make something better, if she can. And, what’s more, is she won’t just up and leave SL in the middle of a class and say, “Fuck you guys, you’re on your own.” She will see each semester through to its completion. That is why Rya finished this class in the first place. She could’ve given up when she got sick. She could’ve given up when Shell made our lives miserable. She could’ve let one horrible student ruin the classroom experience for the rest who were there to learn and were NOT causing problems. However, she didn’t. She stuck it out. And she tried her damnedest. In the end, she had to remove the problem. And even in removing the poison that is Shell, she STILL didn’t give up on the rest of the students. Rya was there for them. Promise kept.
2.) Rya will not let them fail.
Shell would probably claim that Rya broke this promise (and she has already openly accused her of doing so) because of the fact that Shell has now failed the class and will not be graduating. However… this is not what Rya meant by fail. Fail, in and of itself, is a relative term. Just because someone doesn’t like a dance, doesn’t mean you’ve “failed”. Rya strives to teach her students to be happy with their dances, first and foremost. It’s a controversial topic in Gorean Dance… whether the dancer needs to dance to please herself first and other people second… or whether she dances to please her Master first and others/herself second. Rya is of the first opinion… the dancer needs to be pleased with the dance she’s done, otherwise, it’s going to turn into the same old, same old, run-of-the-mill, “I’m just going to spit quotes at you and not actually show you any real emotion” type dances that we all see and fall asleep too regularly. This is what Rya means by not letting the girls fail. If they can be pleased with their dances, and if they dance from their hearts, then they could never “fail”. This is completely separate from an actual graded class. Sorry, but a teacher cannot promise you that you will do amazing work that deserves an “A” and will not fail her class. You earn the grade your work deserves, and she can’t dictate that for you until you present your work. So, just because Shell produced work and an attitude (because Classroom Attitude IS a subject matter that is graded) that was worthy of an F in Rya’s class, does not mean that Rya broke her promise. She taught her students to be pleased in their dances, and Shell cannot claim that she didn’t… because if you ask Shell, her dances are the most amazing thing since sliced bread, and she has no idea why anyone would find anything negative to say about any of them. Promise kept.
3.) Rya will not let them make a fool of themselves.
In my opinion, Shell could never claim that Rya broke this promise, because in order to do so, she would have to call herself a fool. And as full of herself as Shell is, I have a hard time believing that she would ever say that she is or looks like a fool. Nevertheless, what Rya means with this promise is that, for example, if someone who has been working hard in the classes, putting in 110%, isn’t going to be ready by the time graduation happens… say they’ve had a hard time in RL and have been heavily distracted or haven’t been around… or their computer crashed and they lost all their work, etc etc. Rya isn’t going to say, “Well tough titties, I hope you’re ready by graduation,” and make them go out in the sands and make a fool of themselves. One such example is a former student who had some very serious medical issues right before her advanced class graduation. That particular advanced class was required to perform two dances in order to pass. This student only had one of them completely ready to go. She went to Rya, explained the situation, and she was allowed to perform the one dance she had done, without having the added pressure of trying to finish a second one before her graduation. Did that student perform 2 dances at her graduation? No. Did that student still graduate? Yes. Rya was not about to make her try to do a second dance that was even partially unprepared. Promise kept.
Shell asserts multiple times in her blog post, the first of which is seen in this paragraph about Rya, that we could not fail her on her dancing ability… only on her inability to let go of the past. (She clings to this straw because that is what Rya said to her when she told her she wouldn’t be graduating. That unfortunately, Shell couldn’t let go of the past and it was causing problems, so Rya was not going to let her graduate. I have a feeling what Rya would’ve said, if she had felt free to say absolutely anything and everything she wanted to without any negative repercussions, she would’ve same something along the lines of, “Due to you being such a damn drama queen that can’t allow a single class to go by without making some sort of irrelevant comment to start drama with someone, and due to your lack of ability to construct a simple dance without trying to change everything about the assignment to suit you, get out of my class.”) If you’ve seen Flame’s blog post that I linked above, then you’ll also know that the only reason Shell was going to graduate was because she made a complete 180 with her Masters Choice dances that pulled her grade up to the C she needed to graduate. In case you’re wondering…. this is entirely true. I just did the math myself, with Rya in Skype, to confirm that she agreed with my assessment. I’m not going to post Shell’s letter grades in the different areas… but I’m going to describe the situation in general so that you have a better understanding, as a reader who doesn’t have her ‘report card’ in front of you.
Rya BEGINS by grading her students in 8 different areas (yes, I did say BEGINS, Shell… there are more grades involved that you didn’t know about…). These areas are: 1.) Class Attendance, 2.) Classroom Behavior, 3.) Classroom Assignments, 4.) 1st Teacher’s Choice, 5.) 2nd Teacher’s Choice, 6.) 1st Masters Choice, 7.) 2nd Masters Choice, 8.) 3rd Masters Choice.
1.) Class Attendance
Do you show up? Shell did not have perfect attendance, so of course some points were taken down… especially for one particular class that she missed that she had not informed anyone she wasn’t going to be there. She claimed she was called into work and works on foot and was 8 miles away, so she couldn’t just run back to the PC and send a message. I totally understand that. However, we didn’t know where she was, so she was called out in a group notice and asked to write an apology for her absence without communication. Now, if the above situation had been true, getting called into work, etc etc, then all she had to do was go to Rya and say, “So I don’t appreciate getting called out in a group notice. This is what happened…” If she had done that, the apology assignment would’ve been revoked. But she didn’t. Instead, she wrote a childish, passive-aggressive apology that completely disrespected Rya and all the other students of the class. This was also factored into Shell’s “Class Attendance” grade.
2.) Classroom Behavior
It’s safe to say Shell failed this category, and she knows she failed this category, and should have no issue with me expressing that she failed this category, because anyone who knows how Shell conducted herself throughout the Beginners’ and Advanced class both, knows that she would’ve failed this category. Her behavior and her attitude sucked. Between attacking fellow students, disrespecting Rya and the associate teachers, and her general snarkiness… along with instances like, “Boohoo, they didn’t clap for me…” (I’ll address that a little later)… she clearly earned herself a solid “F” for Behavior.
3.) Classroom Assignments
This is an easy category to get a good grade in, as this does not assess the QUALITY of your classroom assignments. The girls are still learning, and the homework assignments cause them to think outside their normal boxes. It’s hard work, and it makes them stretch. We’re not going to look at them TRYING to think outside their box and say, “It’s not good enough, so you get a D.” This grade simply assesses whether or not all their homework assignments were turned in. Shell’s were. So needless to say, she did get a good grade in this category.
4.) 1st Teacher’s Choice
What a “Teacher’s Choice” dance assignment is… is just what it says… the Teacher chooses the subject matter and assigns it to the dancer. This is usually based on something that the Teacher sees in the student and wants to bring it out. Why do I say “the Teacher” this time instead of “Rya”? Because for this go-around, this particular Teacher’s Choice was chosen by Flame and I. I came up with the concepts they were to dance to, and Flame assigned the props. It wasn’t originally going to be this way. Rya had some ideas in her head, but she wanted input from Flame and myself… and so when we started giving her ideas, we were apparently making very very similar suggestions, even without having consulted each other. I liked Flame’s prop suggestions better, and Flame liked my concept suggestions better, so that was how it happened. We combined Flame’s props with my concepts and assigned them to the students. Shell received a lower grade than she probably wanted because in our opinion she completely missed the point of the dance she was assigned.
5.) 2nd Teacher’s Choice
Rya sometimes will and sometimes won’t give a 2nd Teacher’s Choice dance. This time, she did, to pull them all out of their comfort zones. They rely way too heavily on their words sometimes, and so Rya assigned them Wordless dances, to modern music. To level the playing field, she chose the same Musical Artist for ALL the assigned songs, and so she assigned all the Advanced Students a Wordless dance to a Nickelback song.
6-8.) Masters Choice Dances
How many Masters choice dances that are assigned vary from class to class. It just depends on how many Masters are present for the class and paying attention to the girls, and how many wish to participate in this particular assignment. For this go around, we had 2 Masters and a Mistress around that wanted to give assignments to the girls. This meant each girl received 3 Masters Choice dances. And they were all assigned and due at the same time. This would not only test the girls’ ability to produce what the Masters/Mistress were looking for out of them… it would test their ability to manage their time in order to get the three complete dances done on time. One particular student didn’t have the time management skills and didn’t feel she had the spare time to get these three assignments done in the 3 weeks they had, so she actually dropped the class. Rya wished her well and we all hope that her RL and SL are doing well. The girls that came through with their Masters/Mistress choices performed all three dances in the same class IN FRONT OF the Masters and Mistress that assigned them. Each Master and the Mistress were asked, when the dance was done, if they felt the girl had performed what they were looking for. However, when it came to actual letter grades, those were assigned by Rya, Flame, and myself (and we noted this for the girls so that they knew WE graded them, not the Masters and Mistress). The grades that Shell received on her first 2 dances, are what made her pass and move on to the graduation preparation.
However, you’ll note that I said Rya BEGINS by grading her students in 8 categories. What the students don’t know… until now… is that when the group dance preparations are being made, Rya (and Rya alone) grades them on an additional 5 categories in regards to the group dance. Each category is worth a single point… you either did it or you didn’t. Pass/Fail. Because the categories SHOULD be easy to pass. 1.) Following Directions, 2.) Camaraderie, 3.) Staying on Task, 4.) General Participation, 5.) Working “For the Good of the Group”.
1.) Following Directions
Because this was a group dance, there were costumes to get, poses to get, etc. Flame actually decided she wasn’t the biggest fan of the skirts, and so she herself went out and bought textures to fix the skirts in a way that would make them “personal” to all of us but also uniform and unique to the Passionate Heart of Dance. Before someone asks, no, students were not required to purchase the costume with their own lindens. I was away during that particular class (I will address why later), but what I am told by SEVERAL sources, including Flame and Rya themselves… is that Rya told the girls, “This is the costume we’re using. If you do not have the lindens, let me know and I will send you the money to get it.” Also noteworthy is that Shell took advantage of this offering and said, yes, that she needed the lindens for the costume. Rya paid her the lindens, no questions asked. Then the girls spent an entire class period editing their skirts with the textures Flame had gone out to buy. All the girls had to do was choose a particular color out of the ones that Flame showed them, and Flame passed it to them, free of charge, to put on their skirt panels. While the girls were doing this, Shell was sitting down, not doing anything. When she was asked, “Shell, did you get the costume?” she replied with, “No, I’ll do it later while I’m on my sim.” The rest of the group dance process continued much in the same manner. Shell simply couldn’t follow directions. Any guesses on whether she passed or failed?
For those who may not know what this means… allow me to help. This generally refers to bonding with a group of people that you’re in. Working together pleasantly, working with each other, helping each other, being nice to each other, being pleasant to each other. Shell constantly singled herself out through instances like the one given as an example in the point above. She also asked for several changes to be made to the graduation to suit her… the date… the time… but the one that got me the most was the costume for the group dance. Somewhere towards the end of the class (yes, this was a recent change, not one that we had known about the entire time… because it hadn’t always been this way…) Shell acquired an all-mesh avatar. As such, regular clothing layers don’t show up… clothing has to be mesh to sit on top of the mesh body parts. The costume that we chose was not mesh. Instead of being logical like, “Oh, this is clothing layers. I should probably go back to my old avatar so I can wear this,” no… Shell couldn’t do that. She comes to Rya and basically tells her that some of the costume pieces don’t fit her mesh avatar and that something will have to be done about it if Shell couldn’t make them fit. Shell has her old avatar… and eventually between Rya and Flame, they got her to use it. But with all the headaches that caused, any guesses on whether she passed or failed?
3.) Staying on Task
Remember that time when Shell became a part of a group dance and did as she was asked when she was asked, made sure she was working with the other girls and everything went smoothly? Oh wait…
4.) General Participation
You know… there’s a difference between being present, and actually participating. Sure, Shell was there at all the practices for the group dance, but at this point she was so caught up in playing the victim of being persecuted by Rya, the associate teachers, her fellow students. She’d alienated herself completely from pretty much everyone in the class except for Reine. So she spent most of her time in those rehearsals sitting quietly (for the first time since Beginners! Holy shit!) and not really offering much participation at all. In fact, Rya began “punishing” the students for not speaking up during a particular class, by having them do impromptu dancing to music of my choice. (Shell couldn’t quite do that well either… she was given a song with several changing beats.. to make her lighten up and just have fun with it, exploring her different animations… since, remember, according to her ranting she has TONS of them that she was “made” to buy for class… but instead she just stuck with a few that didn’t match the song at all.) Any guesses on whether she passed or failed?
5.) Working “For the Good of the Group”
Shell couldn’t work for the good of the group even if it would save her life. Shell is a narcissist of the worst kind… and anything and everything she does is ultimately self-centric. Group dances force you to look outside of what may be best for YOU and look at what’s best for the GROUP. However, given Shell’s multiple demands regarding graduation… the time… the date… the costume… the prim allowance (which was set by the sim and NOT by us)… it is very clear that Shell wasn’t in it for the good of the group. Any guesses on whether she passed or failed?
That said… given the 0 points that she received out of 5 for the group dance… after re-calculating her grades for the course… Shell now has a D for the course. Now, a D is not an F. (Gee, thanks, Captain Obvious.) However, like most courses in RL… just because you don’t get an F doesn’t mean you pass. Most classes in the REAL world, you have to pass the class with a C in order to receive credit, including passing the “Final Exam”. Which, guess what… the Final Exam is graduation. How does that work? Let me provide you with another example from the modeling world…
There is one particular modeling school that is hailed as being much more complicated to pass than the rest. I’ve never been through the final class yet, so I can’t confirm nor deny this, but I can say as an outsider looking in, it definitely LOOKS like it’s harder to pass. *Chuckles* You have your regular classes that you attend: 101, 102, 103, and 104. Each of those classes is a one-day thing, a few hours for that day… however long it takes to get through the material, really. You’ve got a set start time, but there’s really not an end time. Again, however long it takes. Then, the final class. 105. (Dun dun duuuuuuun.)
105 is a weekend-long class. It begins on a Friday evening, and then there is a Saturday class, and finally a ‘graduation’ show on Sunday. You are assessed throughout the entire weekend… your styling on Friday, your styling and changes made to you on Saturday… and then your ability to style to the themes you’re given for the graduation show. However, walking in that graduation show does NOT mean that you graduated. After the show, the teachers from that academy that are present talk about each student and decide whether or not they passed. You see, the “graduation” show is not a celebration of your graduation… it is, in fact, your final exam. The list of graduates is released afterwards, and oftentimes… if not every time… at least one student has not graduated and will need to attempt 105 again the next time it’s offered (usually every other month).
This is a lot of what Rya does with her graduation, except she’s not as hard on her students as this academy is. Your graduation performance is your final exam. So, to address a point that Shell makes in a subsequent comment on her blog, no, we don’t owe you your certificate, as you got yourself kicked out of the class before you could perform your final exam. Don’t finish the class, don’t pass the class, don’t get the certificate. Sorry, doll.
Well, no I’m not. But that’s a different story… Next…
“you recon Danny don’t look like a coin slut huh. well did you ever know why I was removed from Ti no I bet you don’t so let me share shall I. I was removed because dannys Master took some thing done in rp that I thought was over with and took that as a persanal insult. to such a degree he tok every possible moment to im me with insults, not only of my sl life but my rl, took it from im and pulled it into sl chat. danny herself joined in and told the Ubrs slut I fancied him to the degree his slut wanted me gorn and would chase me all over the dam sim downing me, and when not doing that ejecting me off, then danny tells me im only good for scrubing the shit off a statue foot unlike her. her Master then after an hour of more insults in public screen on both my ic rp life and my rl decided to god mode a rp kill and meter kill, then the pric sim baned me were they all went around telling others what a cunt I am and how im nothing but shit any way.“
If you wanna read that, you can. It’s more pointless bullshit about her roleplay in the City of Ti. Blah Blah, play the victim… blah blah angry at Dani… blah blah, I can do no wrong. Cry me a river, build me a bridge, and get the fuck over it, please.
“not to mension the fact Rya Danny was going to tell you on her 3rd lesson to shove your school up your ass cos her Master was not allowing her to keep going to it, and she came to me for your name in game so she could tell you this herself. Reine to was wanting it over with its Reine that said YOU begged her to vote me out of the school as she was the only one that was stoping the vote from being an all yes and you needed an all yes to do it. so you just about begged her to say yes. he also complained very heavely on how you and your so called girls were treating not only her but myself. but yet I noticed when confronted with stuff she very quickly back off. and you know why cos SHE wants that certificate she worked hard to get. just like I have done.“
Ok. Let’s address Dani first. First off, we all knew that not only her Master, but most of the Masters in her city had issues with how Rya teaches dance. This is because I would hazard a guess that most of them are stuck in the “by the book” box and simply want to see a girl masturbate in the sands. This was made quite clear when the City of Ti held a dance competition and the girl that won was the girl whose dance had the least substance… well… emotional substance… there was certainly a lot of… fluid… substance… spilling from her petals and her pearl and just… ew. Yeah. I kinda wanted to call a Green. Now, to be fair to the City of Ti, their city was not judging. However, their Free in attendance were praising that dance much more than any other girl who had danced that night. So we were all quite aware of how the Free of Ti believe that dance should be done. And it conflicts directly with what Rya teaches. So we knew ALL about the issues Dani was getting over the dance she was writing for her graduation. We tried our best to be as encouraging as possible, but there came a point in time when we just had to say enough. They were harassing the poor girl about her dance and we finally had to let her know that if it would make her more comfortable, she could pawn their negative asses off on Rya if she needed to. “Any concerns with MY dance should be directed to my dance teacher, Rya Inglewood.” In the end, she stuck it out and did so with so much dignity and respect… I admired her greatly for putting up with that much adversity and being here at the end of the day, still standing tall and ready to perform her dance. So, Shell, you can shove your accusations about Dani. She is not the problem here.
And about Reine… this is the difference between Shell and Reine. When Rya opened up the floor during the dance class on April 7th where all this shit went down and came to a head.. and said that she was informed that there was at least one student who would like to tell her to shove her classes and wanted to open up the floor to anyone who wanted to say anything…. Reine stood up. She owned her words, and she said, “You know, I wasn’t talking about just the classes. There was a lot going on in SL and in RL at that time, and I was ready to tell EVERYONE to just fuck off. Not just you, not just class, I was so done with everything.” Reine owned her words, and she let us into her world, telling us what was going on at that time in her life, in a general sense. Rya knows more specifics because that is the trusting relationship that they have developed between the two of them. So, again, Shell, you’re not telling us anything that we didn’t already know. The only thing you did was try to throw your only friend in that class under the bus. I take that back… before that class, when you were trying to bring it up to me in my IMs like you had all these people in the class behind you about how they felt about Rya and the class and how “at least” one of them wanted to tell Rya to shove it… you were using a very common scare tactic utilized often in bullying… trying to get others to back down by giving the illusion that you have a large number of people supporting you and your position.
This is ironic, given the fact that you claim in a later comment on your blog that Flame and I are, and I quote “the reason people kill themselves, from the massive bullying”. I’ll address that lovely statement a bit later. But those of you that know me, know the hell is coming… because you don’t use the bully word with Tivi. Them’s fightin’ words.
“your girls don’t teach shit, every time you cancled a class they should of stept in. but no all they did was post a group message. if that’s what you call being a dance teacher your sicker than we thought you are.“
One thing that you may not be aware of, Shell, is that the past Advanced students were assigned a topic to teach to the Beginners. These classes were to take place after the general 6 week classes that Rya gives. Just like in YOUR Beginners class, I stood up and taught about the difference between the Huddles and The Barre… Sarah talked about opening up in your dances if you’re normally a shy person…. Flame stood up and taught about emotes. (But wait, we don’t teach shit, right?!) For this go-round, Miss Anna was asked about teaching HUDs, I was asked to teach about hiding behind perfection in your dances, Flame was still doing emotes, and Sarah stepped away when the drama got bad… however she would have still taught her class on Shyness, had Rya asked. Why did these classes never happen? The drama started up and between that and Rya’s sickness, she couldn’t handle the two separate classes, one right after the other, every week. The classes were combined into the Beginners and Advanced and so the whole class structure had changed. Just thought I’d let you know that these classes WERE scheduled to happen, they just hadn’t. But, again, we don’t teach shit. Nope. Not at all.
Also, while Rya didn’t feel the need to address this in her response blog because it’s my personal business to tell… I feel confident enough to bring it up. The last class that was cancelled before the classes were combined… you’ll note that that cancellation notice was sent by Flame, whereas I usually sent them. Did you bother to wonder why this happened? When that class got cancelled because Rya was sick still, and then you all were informed classes would be combined starting the next week, I was 12 hours away from my home. I was back up in Indiana, ass-deep in snow, burying my grandfather.
So you say that every time a class was cancelled, one of us should’ve stepped up to teach it. First of all… no. These classes are not ours. We are ASSOCIATE teachers… not Lead Instructors. We are also co-owners of the group from a logistical sense. The classes themselves and all the lessons included in that class, are Rya’s, and Rya’s alone. I don’t teach, my teacher teaches. I teach one subject, when asked, and that is about how I used to meticulously time every little detail of my dance and hide behind that perfection so that I didn’t have to show my REAL self in my dance. THAT is the only thing I teach. But even if I did have ANY desire to teach anyone, let alone teach a class that had YOU in it… I didn’t step up to teach that particular class because I was burying my grandfather. I am so sorry that it was so inconvenient to you that I could not sign online from my laptop in a hotel lobby and teach a dance class because I was burying my grandfather. Next time, I’ll just tell my loved one, “Hold on for just a little bit longer. You can’t die yet. I have a dance class that I might have to teach and Shellirene’s schedule is so much more important than your health or your final resting place.” Fuck you for being so self-centered and insensitive to DARE say we should’ve just stepped in because a cancelled class was inconvenient for you. Fuck you. You should be ashamed of yourself.
The other fun portion of this little comment is the last bit… “you’re sicker than we thought you were.” Who is this ‘we’ shit? It was made very clear that any time you tried to use that “this is what ‘we’ think” bullshit, other students in the class were completely confused and/or outright stated, “Nope, this isn’t how I feel.” My personal favourite example of this was, “Well I know you put Dani in charge of the beginners.” And Dani’s response was, “What?” Yeah. Cut the ‘we’ shit. This is just your desperate attempt as a sad little girl to vie for the attention of other people. Guess what, it’s working… but certainly not in the way you wanted it to.
“and the fact is Rya your only as good as the lands yours able to sneak off on to to hold these courses cos no other gorean sim likes you. they think your a bitch that don’t know how to teach dance for the gorean people. this is why your hidden your school away.“
Let’s review the facts of this situation, shall we… first of all, Rya doesn’t teach Gorean dance SPECIFICALLY. Rya teaches dance. As such, she tried to keep a healthy mixture of Gorean sims and non-Gorean sims… because Goreans and non-Goreans alike wanted her to teach them how to dance. She wanted to make sure she had a place where anyone and everyone could feel comfortable. Any time the classes have moved it’s been for that reason: for the greater good of the classes and the students. Never because she was “kicked out”.
Rya began her dance classes at Solace of Submission D/s Academy. Back in January of 2012, Sir LC and Rya had a public collaring ceremony at Sos. During the reception (which I was not allowed to attend, because I was being punished by my Sir at the time… I was only allowed to attend the collaring because Rya is important to me, but the party was seen as an optional part of the event, so I was told to tp home)… but during the reception, Rya performed her old Whip Dance at Sir LC’s request. It was to be her present to Him. After that, Rya was approached about teaching dance at Sos, as there were several people who were instantly interested in learning how to do what Rya had just done. And so it began… Rya started teaching dance at Sos. Why isn’t she teaching at Sos anymore? The classes started and stopped a few times, because of Rya’s RL work schedule, but ultimately, the Sos schedule exploded and expanded so much that the class times that were available did not fit Rya’s weekend schedule anymore. You can’t have a class where there isn’t a time. And that was no one’s fault except the people that make Rya’s work schedule. *Chuckles* As such, Rya was not kicked out of Sos. She had to stop teaching there because of schedule conflicts. This has been confirmed with the Director of Facilitation from Sos’s Board of Directors.
Then, in March of 2012, I hosted my first Fusion dance competition. Fusion competitions were sort of inspired by the uniqueness of Rya’s dance classes…. As I said, Rya teaches Goreans and non-Goreans alike. She simply teaches dance. Her lessons can be applied both inside and outside of Gor. I wanted a competition where Gorean and non-Goreans could come together around the same central theme and learn from each other. Also, because non-Gorean dances would be allowed, nothing was stopping Gorean dancers from dancing non-Gorean dances. A few of the dancers in the Gorean community at the time took full advantage of that opportunity and positively flourished in non-Gorean dance. Anyway, in March of 2012, I hosted my first Fusion competition at Fallen Angels BDSM Club. That competition was so well-received, keeping 90+ people consistently on that sim for over 2 hours, that one of Fallen’s Owners at the time and my good friend, Eldric, along with His girl at the time Gemma, approached me, wanting me to teach dance at Fallen. They felt it would be a unique discussion/class topic. Well, as we all know, my general response is, “I don’t teach, my teacher teaches.” Also, because Rya was teaching the same class at Sos, I wanted to at least give her the right of first refusal. I directed them to Rya. Because Rya is so passionate about her teaching, she took on Fallen as well. Why is Rya no longer teaching at Fallen? First of all, Fallen doesn’t exist any more. Secondly, Rya left Fallen after Ownership changed and the new Owners didn’t want to continue with the three things that Rya needs for a successful class: 1.) Voice (voice was shut off on the sim if it was “during an event”, and they scheduled an event during her class time), 2.) Students able to attend wearing whatever they’d like, as long as naughty bits were covered (that was the only thing they were still ok with), 3.) Access to the stream (Rya couldn’t have access to the stream because there was a DJ’d event going on during the time of her class now.) So she voluntarily stepped away. She was not kicked out of this sim either.
After Rya had to temporarily step away from Sos the first time when she started her job, she began teaching at the Dance Gardens of Gor, originally owned and operated by Kira Swordthain. This place was truly wonderful and I would have to say it’s the best place that the classes have been held so far, with the exception of where we’re at now. The sim was beautiful, and Kira was so welcoming. She allowed Rya to have multiple time slots when she needed them, and even allowed non-Goreans to be in attendance in their Earth clothes. Her partner at the time (not her current partner) had his own issues with non-Gorean clothing, but she continued to assert that the girls would be welcome no matter what. Rya had access to the things that she needed: Voice, Gorean and non-Gorean students welcomed, and the stream. Why is Rya no longer teaching at the Dance Gardens? It was looking like Kira may close the gardens (before the official announcement was made), and there had been an offer from Tarnsport to have classes on their sim if it was ever needed… and so the classes were moved from the Dance Gardens to Tarnsport.
While Rya was teaching simultaneously at Fallen and the Dance Gardens, I was approached by one of her students about how her city wanted the classes to come there too. I went to Rya and said, “I have good news for you!” One of Rya’s ultimate goals when she started teaching was that she wanted to get back into the Gorean sims because, at the time she BEGAN teaching in 2012, the passion in Gorean dance was gone. Girls were competing only for the prizes… and they were doing nothing but masturbating in the pit. Girls who tried to do emotional dances, or dances that followed a story more than “in the moment” dancing, were shunned as being “storytellers” and not “real” dancers. Rya wanted to make a change in Gor, so it was always her goal to get back there. So when approached with the opportunity to teach a class in the City of Turia, she jumped. It was wonderful to be there, and it was amazing to see Rya happy. Towards the tail end of our journey in Turia, a group of people actually tried to ‘raid’ our class… shooting arrows, coming over the wall… etc etc. None of us were wearing meters, as the class was out of character, since the whole dance pavilion that had been built specifically to hold classes and exhibitions and competitions, was out of character. The student was in Rya’s IMs, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry.” We’re all laughing our asses off at the stupidity of this bunch, trying to raid an OOC class with a bunch of un-metered slaves and students. Personally, I found it hilarious. Why isn’t Rya teaching in Turia anymore? That version of the City of Turia (yes, there have been several installments of “Turia” to pop up in SL) folded. You can’t teach a class in a city that doesn’t exist.
After Turia was right around the time that Fallen Ownership changed. So for awhile, Rya was only teaching in the Dance Gardens.
Shortly before that, Rya and I were invited to Tarnsport to do a dance class. Originally we were under the impression that they wanted Rya’s full dance class, but then a notice dropped about another dance teacher doing a class there during the same week. It was made known through a clarifying conversation with Sir Ramius who had been organizing the sessions that they wanted several “one-time” classes from different teachers for the girls to get multiple perspectives. With that in mind, Rya and I went in to Tarnsport and did a small “overview” type class. This was where the running joke came from that Rya hates it when girls kneel around her… because that was the first thing these girls all did. They knelt around the dance pit and then when she said, “You can come closer, it’s ok,” they all wandered into the dance pit and knelt in front of her. The class, overall, we felt, was successful, but it was one-time. We went in, we did our thing, we left. The Sim Owner and Admin’s slave was in one of Rya’s classes in the Dance Gardens. Somewhere in the midst of the Dance Gardens potentially closing, Rya was invited to teach in Tarnsport… not just another one-time class, but her full class. (Rya and I had had a falling out around that point, and so I was not really present when the invite came to teach at Tarnsport, and was not present during much of her first Beginners class there… when Flame and Sarah and Foxie and Gracie all were beginners. Rya and I started speaking shortly after that, when I applied to take the NEXT Beginners class because of a year-long writers block I’d had with dance. So that is why there is a bit of a gap in my recollection of Rya’s teachings, because I was not around.) Now, during this second installment of the classes at Tarnsport is when problems started to happen. Remember, Rya needs 3 things to have a successful class, and that’s all she asks for: 1.) Voice, 2.) Goreans and non-Goreans alike to be able to attend, and 3.) Access to the stream. This time, Rya made an exception to her three simple requests, and reassured the sim owner that she would ask all her students to dress in Gorean attire, to respect the sim, but she asserted that the classes themselves were still Out of Character. We had students that weren’t Gorean… so of course we couldn’t hold an In Character class with girls who don’t roleplay in Gor… there is no character to be in. I will admit that there were times I was running late for class, coming from a meeting, rehearsal, or show, and so I would show up initially in Earth clothes, but as soon as I got to class and got settled on a pillow or wherever, I would change. When I changed clothes, typically into a kirtle of some kind, because I was a mamba-born bondmaid when I rp’d in Gor YEARS ago… I would still occasionally be harassed by the sim owner over my attire. One particular instance, it was mentioned in public something about my Earth clothes. Smartass that I am, I made a comment about looking at her kirtle, trying to find the earth clothes. The sim owner emoted back at me that she couldn’t see my kirtle underneath my earth clothes. This was a kirtle from The Shack, people. Come on. And I wasn’t the only student that was harassed about their attire as well. Why is Rya no longer teaching in Tarnsport anymore? Sage (uh oh! That name again… I was really trying to avoid it…) would probably like to tell you that she kicked Rya out. However, through a conversation between Sage, Sir Werner, Rya, and Sir LC, they agreed to disagree and Rya decided it would be best to move the classes, for the good of her students. The graduation for that set of classes was held at the Gorean Campus.
After a successful graduation at the Gorean Campus, Rya went into talks with krista and Lady Janette of the Gorean Campus and it was decided that her classes would come there for her next semester. We were super excited. The pavilion was gorgeous, and from the graduation that we held, we knew that the sim could hold its own in lag. In the beginning, krista was super nice and super helpful. She was informed of those magic three things that Rya needs for a class to be successful: 1.) Voice, 2.) Gorean and non-Gorean students to be welcome, 3.) Access to the stream. During the first few classes, we realized that the stream thing was an issue, but krista jumped and was quick to solve the problem. She invited Rya’s associate teachers (myself, Flame, and Sarah) to the land group, gave us the instructor tags, and allowed the instructors the ability to change the stream. Things were great. There were a few instances of people being talked to about “non-Gorean attire”, but it wasn’t near as drama-filled as the issues in Tarnsport. However, one thing krista really liked to do was Conference IMs and random notecard offers to her friend’s list about the Campus schedule, etc. I, personally, am not a fan of being spammed, so one night, I quietly removed her from my friend’s list. It wasn’t anything against her or anything else. It wasn’t done to spite her or to anger her. But from that moment on, krista had decided that I was a horrible person and had done it to spite and disrespect her. I was perfectly cordial in all my dealings with her when asking her about anything Rya needed to know (since Rya was trying to deal with teaching… I tended to take care of behind the scenes stuff that she needed…) Then things started to slowly happen… first, I was ejected from the land group with no warning. It turned out, so was Sarah. Flame and Rya were still in it, so we could still change the stream, even if I personally couldn’t. But then gradually, Flame was ejected from the land group as well. Sarah and I and Flame all lost our “instructor” tags in the regular Campus group… and it just became problem after problem. Eventually, Rya even lost her ability to change the stream, and so we always had to IM krista and ask for the stream to be changed. Her excuse? “No one is going to tell me what to do on MY sim.” No one was trying to tell her what to do. Rya was just trying to make sure that she continued to receive the three simple things she needed as a part of her initial agreement with krista and Lady Janette: 1.) Voice, 2.) Goreans and non-Goreans alike welcomed in whatever attire they’re comfortable in as long as naughty bits were covered, 3.) Access to the stream. Why does Rya no longer teach at the Gorean Campus? After we finished out that second graduation at the Campus, Rya had decided that she was over the drama that was being caused by herself and her teachers losing access to the very simple things she’d initially requested. She was also tired of krista’s unfounded issues with me guiding her dealings with Rya. To be blunt, krista treated Rya like shit because she, for whatever reason, decided she didn’t like me. And so for that reason, Rya chose to move her classes. She was NOT kicked out of the Gorean Campus. That has been confirmed with a member of the Gorean Campus staff.
For about 2 or 3 classes, the class moved to a gorgeous garden that I had built as a gift to Rya. It was initially a gift from my Master to me because He knew how much I really wanted to help Rya in all the bullshit she’d gone through recently. Rya fell in love with the garden. The waterfall, all the trees, the pit, the pavilion, everything. The trees could be changed to suit all four seasons, so we never had to re-landscape if we didn’t want to. It was just gorgeous. However, the classes moving from that garden to the arena we’re in now is entirely my fault and, again, I’ll own up to that. Rya’s biggest concern was that if my Master and I split up for whatever reason, would the classes have to move again. My Master had said that he would never let anything come before my desire for dance. That the garden had nothing to do with our personal relationship… so even if we were no longer together, the classes would still be welcomed on the sim. However, when I asked for release, I didn’t feel I could be around Him or on His sim, given the nature of the relationship ending and so, with Rya’s blessing (a very calm, “Don’t even worry about it, do what you need to do,”) I picked up the garden, and we moved to the arena. To be fair, even if I had kept the garden at the sim, Master left SL for about 5 months after that, and didn’t pay His tier, etc, so He lost the quarter-sim anyway. So even if I had left the garden up, we would’ve eventually had to move regardless. It was just easier to do so towards the beginning of the classes rather than mid-way through when girls were planning their graduation dances.
That leads us to the arena we’re in now. And for the record, when Shell states that we had to “hide our classes away”… we choose now to be on a private sim that has been offered to us since Rya first began teaching… (yes, really. Every time we’ve moved, Sir Nalen has asked us, “Why don’t you just use your arena. I made it for you.”) It’s not ‘hiding away’. It’s finally reassuring that once and for all we will continue to keep the 3 basic things that Rya needs in order for a class to be successful: 1.) Voice, 2.) Goreans and non-Goreans alike in whatever attire they choose, 3.) Access to the stream.
Now that you know much more information than necessary about Rya’s class history, you can see that we were never kicked out of anywhere. There was never an instance of people from a sim we were on thinking Rya is a “bitch”… well, correction, I’m sure Sage thinks Rya’s a bitch… but it’s whatever, because not even a bosk’s ass gives a damn what she thinks in the grand scheme of things. (Hell, I think she has a worse reputation in the dance community than *I* do, and that’s saying something.) So Shell, you can have a seat, please. Stop making accusations about shit you know nothing about.
“you have had so many girls go to your classes you wonder why the numbers drop from 19 down to 4 its cos you and your girls drive them off that’s why.“
We don’t wonder why the numbers drop from 19 down to 4. They always drop. You know why they drop, Shell? It’s because everyone wants to learn to dance… not everyone wants to do the WORK to learn to dance. It’s sorta like pageantry. Everyone wants to be Miss America… but not everyone wants to hunker down and do the work necessary to have even an inkling of a shot at Miss America. You have to do the work. You can’t just get by on barely trying and ‘bullying’ your way through. You of all people should know that.
“your no teacher Rya to not allow a person to not finish there graduation after 5 months of working on dances, putting cash in to get endless dance animation, hours apon hours of writing 3 dances, getting props made. for your slutty cunts of girls to bring up dirt from 3 other sims and so forth to shit on me and you have the tits to turn an say after 2 hours of this that the reson I wont graduate is because I cant let go of the past.“
Run that by me again? Rya isn’t a teacher because she doesn’t allow everyone to graduate? Did you go to University? Did you tell professors that they weren’t real teachers because not everyone in their class got an A? Heaven forbid you have to actually do the work and be a decent human being to pass a dance class. We don’t ask for much from you, Shell… unfortunately, you just wanted the class to revolve around what you could and/or wanted to do. Class doesn’t work like that. Life doesn’t work like that. Sometimes you just have to take a teaspoon of cement and harden the fuck up. Do what you know needs to be done. Do your assignments, smile and nod, even if it’s people you don’t like… just like we did… and get through the class with your head down in order to graduate. Unfortunately for you, you couldn’t do that, and Rya was sick of putting up with your shit. THAT’S why you didn’t graduate. YOU did it to YOURSELF. Just like I told you in your IMs. You brought all of this upon yourself with how you acted. You cultivated peoples’ opinions of you. You alienated yourself from everyone else in that class, including your teachers. You ultimately came at me in a passive-aggressive attempt to start more drama that lead to your expulsion from the class in the first place. None of YOUR actions make Rya “not a teacher”. In fact, it makes her a damn good teacher because she wasn’t willing to continue to allow the rest of her students to suffer for your personal gain.
Hats off to you, Rya. Cause I sure as hell wouldn’t have put up with her for as long as you did. Especially with people BEGGING you to remove her from class. Oh, what’s that, Shell? You didn’t know about that? Right, while you’re busy spouting off your half-cocked bullshit about a “vote”, there were students and teachers alike actually BEGGING Rya to remove you from the class. Rya preferred to let you either stick it out or leave on your own. So instead of giving Rya shit, you should be THANKING her for putting up with you for as long as she did, despite several people wanting you gone.
Oh, and Flame, Sarah, and I are slutty cunts. Fantastic! We’ve all had less collars combined than Shell’s had just since she started Beginners. Thought you might wanna know.
“oh and one more thing before I close this one post, you had us all work on a dance called Ryas world, its about YOU only, well get ready cos Reine intends to change it at the end and add parts into it for her friends only and morph into some angel that’s got nothing to do with you but her and her friends, and you talk about me disrespecting you. not to mension 3 weeks to go out of 5 months and Reine has not even done her 3 dances well she has she just keeps changing them, and it was Reine that was bitching that you had us all do that amount of Maters choices, and it was all done behind your back.“
Blah blah, more shit that is completely irrelevant.. blah blah, more attempting to throw her one friend under the bus… blah blah. Feel free to read or not read that paragraph. It won’t enhance your understanding of the situation one way or the other.
“and if it not for Tivi and her hurtfull words to me id never of brought any of it up to start with because un like you all I was trying to be the better person.“
Oh really? Let’s go there for a moment, shall we?
Saturday evening, the 5th, I was taking a damn nap. I have RL medical issues, and so there are days when I sleep more than others, and days that I don’t sleep at all. I was coming off a horrible week and wasn’t sleeping well, so I slept A LOT on Saturday. I was taking a nap, and I get an IM from Shell. When she opened my IMs, she didn’t say hi… she didn’t say, “I have a question for you about prim allowance for graduation,” which is what she later claims the entire point of the IM was… she comes at me with this lovely little message:
[2014/04/05 16:25:19] Never Fear ﮎℋεℒℒ Is Here (Shellirene): is there a reason you unfriended me ?
Now… the hilarious part of that message is that I never unfriended her. There was a night awhile back that she came at Sarah in an incredibly disrespectful manner, and no matter how many times Sarah said, “If you have an issue, take it to Rya,” Shell refused, and kept going off at Sarah. Anyone who knows me and/or Rya, knows how protective we are of Sarah… so of course, when Sarah, Flame, Rya, and I were in a Skype call WHILE all this was happening, of course I stepped up and told Shell to lay off Sarah. This started an argument in our box that ended in me going off on Shell and Shell muting me. Apparently by this time, she’d muted Sarah as well. Flame hadn’t said a word to her the whole time, and so she offered to copy/paste my last message to Shell, since it was sent after Shell muted me. When Flame went to do so, she received the autoresponse that SL sends when someone has you muted. So… hasn’t even said a word to her and already Shell had muted her? Seriously? So yeah, Shell knows that she is the one that unfriended and muted me… so the whole basis that she opened the conversation with was just to attempt to incite more drama. Come on now, what have we all learned about coming at Tivi? You come correct, or you have a seat. You don’t come all passive-aggressive and half-cocked. That’s just asking for trouble.
(I’d like to note that as of this moment, this blog entry is 13,565 words long. Got the sense that you messed with the wrong person yet, Shell? That’s if you read this far…)
So of course, you come at me negatively, I’ll come back. My response was as follows…
[2014/04/05 18:20:49] Tiviyah: If you’ll remember correctly, *you* unfriended *me* when you muted your teachers and were pitching your drama fit awhile back.
Now see… the best part of this is she doesn’t even try to fight it… her very next message states…
[2014/04/05 18:23:00] Never Fear ﮎℋεℒℒ Is Here (Shellirene): yes when you bitched me out first i muted and unfriended you. and you have not helpt me nor offered teach me i only hear from you in class but i un muted you cos rya asked me to
Right. So you admitted that you muted and unfriended me, yet you purposely come at me in the way you did that night? You pretty much just flashed a neon sign that says, “Drama whore! Right here! I’m trying to cause problems…. AGAIN!” But sure… I’ll let you have your fun and continue…
[2014/04/05 18:23:34] Never Fear ﮎℋεℒℒ Is Here (Shellirene): but the main reason i was contacting you was to fnd out about the prims with the props
[2014/04/05 18:23:42] Never Fear ﮎℋεℒℒ Is Here (Shellirene): but i worked that out
Really? If your true purpose was that, then why didn’t you mention that in your IM, especially when it became increasingly clear that I was afk? Oh wait, I know why I know why! Ooo Ooo pick me pick me! It’s because you never had that intention at all. You just added that in because you DIDN’T want to look like you were trying to start shit.
Unfortunately, I don’t need X-ray glasses to see through that shit… bitch, you’re transparent as hell.
Also, during the actual class on April 7th, Shell, in grasping at straws, then tried to say that it was meant for someone else’s IM… like she was going to blind-side me with some new information. Again… please… spare me the lying. If it was truly a case of “wrong box”, then you would’ve pointed it out that night, instead of continuing to start shit.
How stupid do you think I am? Seriously…
“To everyone that reads this
Rya Inglewood who runs the *Passionate Heart of Dance, would STRONGLY recommend do not send people there or go there, she is to faced, lies to her students, drives them off by letting her girls
Sarah Elisabeth Brenham (sarahelisebeth.Brenham
treat each girl like shit and inturn then act inacent that they were in the right to do as such,”
*Clicks her tongue* Ok… so… let me get this straight… you’re going to “STRONGLY recommend” that Free don’t send their girls to Rya’s classes and that girls don’t choose to attend Rya’s classes… for what reason exactly? For the fact that you wanted to cause drama and thought you should still be allowed to skate on by with sub-par work and be allowed to graduate?
Also, we’ll note that by this point, she no longer is counting Reine as her only friend in this matter and someone who feels the same way as she does… in fact, she’s flipped to the other extreme and has counted Reine’s name among the associate teachers whom she’s accusing of treating people like shit.
And again, even though she doesn’t use the “we” word, she brings up this same we shit. Apparently the associate teachers are no longer just treating her like shit. Apparently we’re treating “each girl” like shit and then acting innocently like we were right to do such.
No, Shell. We were just right to finally kick your overly-emotional, drama-seeking, throw-a-temper-tantrum-like-a-three-year-old ass out of the class when we did. (I’m still of the opinion that we should’ve done it sooner.)
“they allow you to spend your time siting there for up to 4 hours a class hearing nothing but how great her girls are, or praiseing just the one or two endlessly for weeks on there looks, when it should be about dance,”
Alright. Let’s address some of these small points. Up to 4 hours a class? Class was scheduled for 2 hours… 7-9pm SLT. Sometimes class did go over… more specifically, it went over on days that Rya was on her soapbox, or the night that we did all the Masters Choice dances in the same night. Yes, some classes went over, but not all of them. And unless it was stated otherwise, you were certainly welcome to leave after the allotted two hours a night, because that is all we asked you to plan for. You chose to stay. So don’t complain about it now.
Also, apparently she heard nothing but how great her girls are. By this, she was accusing Rya of only talking about myself, Flame, and Sarah as examples in the class. I addressed this point when Shell and I had our IM conversation on Saturday, the 5th, but allow me to present that particular point here as well:
[2014/04/05 19:11:49] Tiviyah: 5.) “oh and the biggest is its all about you and flame and sarah. that’s all we get shoved in our faces. what about the advanced. we don’t even get a mention. we worked just as hard to get where we are.” I’m not terribly certain you understand, exactly. I’ve been with Rya since she started teaching… over 2 years ago… I’ve been in every one of her classes. That’s why when I finally took and graduated the Beginners and Advanced classes, it was the running joke that after taking the classes 15 times or so, I finally graduated. Flame and Sarah have been friends with Rya for a LONG time. They have gone through the classes and graduated and have been promoted to teachers and part owners of this group and these classes. We praise the advanced students who do good work all the time. When Iris lets us know she competed and placed somewhere… same with others who are competitive. When we are TOLD about things, we will bring them up and acknowledge the hard work done. However, when it comes to what you’re being TAUGHT in class… Rya uses us as examples because WE’VE BEEN THERE AND GRADUATED… you, right now, are still learning, you’re still the students, you’re still there. You’ve not graduated yet. We are used as an example to motivate you. Just like, if classes resume if Rya gets better, your class will be used as an example if the situation is appropriate. I’ll tell you one thing I can say with at least 99% certainty. If Rya wants to use an example of someone who did a complete 180 and shocked everyone with Masters Choice dances and used them to let her THRIVE… THAT, my dear, will be your example that she uses. No one else has left a legacy with Masters Choices like tht. No one has shocked the shit out of Rya like you did with Masters Choices. When you graduate, you will become an example too.
Please note that I gave her PRAISE here. I pointed out her improvement on her Master’s choices and stated that she would be used as an example in future classes. Rya would go on to tell that story to encourage students who didn’t think they were “getting it”. Shell had her lightbulb moment, it seemed like. They would too. That was the legacy Shell originally left in Rya’s classes. However, did Shell see the compliments that I gave her? Of course not. Because she ignored them and went on in our conversation to go right to her next complaint… and then again, it shows she didn’t read the response I gave because here she complains about it again, in that blog post. Seriously, Shell. It was pushing it to praise you once. I’m not doing it again. You got the praise you deserved over your Masters Choice dances.
As far as praising a student about her looks when it should be about dance… I’m not terribly certain who we spent weeks praising their looks… however, were you paying attention in your Beginners class??? How you look is a PART of how you dance. How you portray your avatar is a HUGE part of your dance. YOU are the first thing they see… not your prop… not anything else… YOU. And YOU are what they focus on. So if you’re going to half-ass your costume or not pay careful attention to the details of your avatar, then you may as well not be performing the dance, because you didn’t give a shit enough to put the required effort into your appearance. You can have the prettiest emotes in the world, but if your avi doesn’t match them or match your music, no one is going to understand what the hell you’re dancing about. It all comes together in dance, Shell. I guess you missed that in your Beginners class. (Note to Rya: If she missed this part, how did she get into Advanced, again???)
“and they allow you to put endless amounts of cash into it to buy dance anamations, dance huds, hours and hours of your time in writing dances, getting costumes done getting props done, then only to tell you well yes you have passed then right at the end they say your not graduating cos you wont let go of the past, whichyour past has nothing to do with them, they are there to teach you to dance not judge you on your past, and stop you from graduating.”
Alright. If anyone out there remembers anything about the beginners class, maybe they can answer this question for me: Does Rya ever make you buy dance animations? NO. In fact, Rya tells them NOT to go out and buy dances. She tells them NOT to buy a dance hud until SHE thinks they’re ready. There are a few fundamental lessons that they need to get through in the Beginners class before they choose whether or not they’re going to buy ANYTHING. The biggest reason Rya is so adamant about NOT buying anything to begin with is because of how many girls drop. If you came in to class #1 and Rya said, “You need to go buy the Female World dance pack from A&M as well as a Barre dance Hud,” then that, right there, is at LEAST L$3,000. Imagine if, 2 classes later, student Susie Q decides that this dance class is too much work for her. Then she’s out L$3,000 for shit she’s probably never going to use again. Rya does not want these girls to financially invest in dance until they know for sure it’s what they want to do. Clearly it wasn’t what you wanted to do, Shell, so WHY did you go out and buy animations and buy a HUD? (Again, Rya, I’m starting to wonder how she made it to Advanced if she missed so many of the basics from Beginners….)
Who said you had to get props done? Again, boys and girls, what is one of the first things Rya tells you about props? What is the most important prop? YOURSELF. Anything else is a bonus and is not required for a good dance. The first competition that I did after at least a year and a half of being out of the sands… I did a very simple dance. 3 minutes and 12 seconds. Nothing horribly long. And it was just me… me, my costume, my animations, my music, and my emotes. No prop. No nothing. Just me and my little 3 minute dance. There were some AMAZING dances that day. Some much longer dances, some girls with props, some girls with much more elaborate costuming. But you know what… I won that competition that day… and I did so with, I believe, 11 points off from a perfect score. Between 3 judges, I mark that as pretty damn good for me. Props are not required to have a good dance. You need a dance that YOU connect to emotionally, that YOU enjoy doing (or feel you need to do, if it’s not a happy dance that you can ‘enjoy’… mine was heartbreaking, but I needed to do it)… if YOU are not into your dance, no one else will be. I don’t care if your prop lights up, spins around, changes shape three different times and not only makes but serves me coffee… if your dance is shit, your prop isn’t going to help it. You shouldn’t have been dropping L$5,000 on a prop for a dance… you should’ve been making sure that your dance was complete first… and then decided if a prop was needed… and if it was… it should never take away from your dance, only enhance it. Something tells me a L$5,000 prop was going to be far too much and would distract from your dance.
Then perhaps you would’ve failed your final exam of the graduation and not gotten to graduate… then we’d be right back here where we are now. It seems all roads lead to you not graduating and throwing a fit about it…
“I highly recommend if the free want there girls to learn dance DONT send them to Rya. she and her girls are posion. and will waiste your time and your girls time and money by attending these classes.”
Again with this recommending thing. Good thing your opinion doesn’t mean shit in the grand scheme of things, because no one cares whether you recommend or not. Just because YOU didn’t want to do the work to learn to dance doesn’t mean that other people won’t get a lot out of the class and become wonderful dancers as a result of their own desire and Rya’s teachings.
You see… that’s the thing… you can’t just attend a class and BAM! you become a good dancer. You could attend all the classes in the world… and yet if you don’t WANT it and don’t WORK at it, you’re never going to get there. You’re never going to be great, or even good. If that desire and that passion isn’t in you to express who you are in dance… then you can’t expect to step out there and be amazing at it.
Also, if you wasted money, that was your own choice. Rya never charged a “fee” to take her classes. She never FORCED anyone to buy ANYTHING. And in fact, when it came to the two things students were asked to buy for graduation: the costume & an ending pose.. Rya gave you the lindens for the costume, and I gave you the lindens for the ending pose. You were required to spend a whole L$0 of your own money. And if anything else, you owe Rya the money for the costume and you owe me the money for the pose. However, are we going to harass you about it and bother you until you pay it? No. I couldn’t give a shit less. Pursuing the lindens you owe me would mean talking to you again and that’s really not on my to-do list for any time in the foreseeable future.
In fact, if I die and end up in hell… and I see you there… and you even try to say “hello”… even THEN… it will be too soon.
“that’s when Rya can be botherd to even show up.”
That first day that Rya came back after her visit to the Doctor and you could tell in her voice that she was barely able to hold it together for the sake of the class… that was the first class when she announced there wouldn’t be another semester of the classes for the time being, until she came back and stated otherwise. That night? Do you remember that night? None of us knew what was going on. She wouldn’t even tell ME when I asked her what the doctor had said. All I got was, “Not now, I can’t in front of the class. I’m trying to keep it together for them. I’ll tell you soon, I promise.”
At that point, I was in tears. I had to ask her, in order to keep from sending myself into a panic attack, “Just answer me one question… is the cancer back?”
THAT is how sick Rya had been… bed-ridden… in so much pain… barely able to walk… when Flame said it in her blog, it may have seemed like a melodramatic exaggeration, but I’m going to re-iterate it… we were worried that Rya was dying. It was a very likely possibility. When Rya went for the bone scan of her knees, we were discussing the distinct possibility that the cancer had returned and had finally made it into her bones. When it gets into your bones… that’s it. That’s all she wrote. There’s not a lot of coming back from that. Not for someone who is as tired of fighting as Rya is.
THAT was the reality that we were facing.
Thank our lucky stars that it WASN’T cancer, however Rya is still not ok. She’s feeling so much better thanks to her new medication… the doctors seem to have finally figured out what’s wrong and are getting her the necessary treatment… but you know what.. .it’s not cure-able. So eventually… could be 50 years from now… but eventually… it will take her from us. You don’t take a situation like that lightly.
You don’t take medical situations lightly.
You don’t take terminal diseases lightly.
I would know… I’m in the same boat.
So I’m sorry, Shell, if again, the world cannot just stop spinning to suit you. I’m sorry if other peoples’ medical problems cannot just magically go away because you think it’s inconveniencing your dance class schedule. I’m sorry that Rya could barely move to go to the bathroom… take a shower or a bath… MAKE HERSELF FOOD OR GET WATER… Rya could barely function enough to keep herself alive from a nutritional standpoint… let alone worry about a dance class in a virtual program. As much as she loves (most of) her students, and as much as she cares for your success… she’s not about to kill herself (quite literally) to get to a dance class.
And she’s not going to ask more of her associate teachers than we can handle, with our various RL and SL issues and commitments and obligations.
So yeah, sometimes Rya didn’t show up. But she certainly had her reasons.
At this point, I’m not even going to go into the comment that Shell left in response to Flame commenting on this particular blog entry and letting her know that her out of context crap was refuted and explained in detail on her own blog post. I will say, though, that Shell is a freaking psycho. Her first words to Flame were telling her to shove a chainsaw between her thighs and turn it on full. Like… seriously? Who does that? What kind of mentally healthy individual tells someone something like that?
None that I know.
And yet Flame and I are the ones supposedly causing people to kill themselves over massive bullying?
Yeah, don’t think that I’ve forgotten the bully word that she dragged me into.
However… at damn near 17,000 words and nearly 12 hours of writing on this blog (yes, I’ve been in a Skype call bouncing back and forth between a call with Rya, a call with Master, or a call with Rya AND Master… and the current call time is 11 hours; 48 minutes; and 22 seconds.) I have to say that I’ve already given your blog post WAY too much of my time.
Sometime this weekend, I’ll write a part two and address some of my personal OPINIONS on this matter… because remember this WHOLE blog post was simply my response to all the sophomoric bullshit that Shell was spewing in her giant run-on sentence of a blog post the other day.
I haven’t gotten into the the meat of the conversation between her and I… and I haven’t even really gotten into the circumstances of class on Monday, the 7th. There’s so much more to talk about, but DAMN my hands hurt. I need to take a break.
And so…. until part two… I simply have this to say as my last words to Shell for this post… (thank you, Master, for the permission to phrase it this way…. you made my day…)
You, madam, can go fuck yourself.